Dream Partner — My Story
Do you long for a relationship where you'll truly feel good?
I was single for 15 years. I told myself it was okay. That I wasn't ready yet. That I had to deal with my pain, my traumas first… and only then would I be ready for a partnership. But the truth was I craved love the whole time. I just hadn't allowed myself to admit it.
In BeTrue therapy I worked on all kinds of things. But the topic of a relationship I kept postponing. I kept putting it off until I'd be "done," healed from my insecurities. Then one day I said — enough. I stopped waiting. Life is passing by. If not now, when will I allow myself this?
So I took a step I had always rejected as a solution because I didn't believe in it. I placed an ad. On Facebook. Me — who had always scorned dating sites. And that's exactly where I met him. A man who is now part of my life.
And with him came my fears. All the ones I didn't even know I had:
- the fear of opening up so it wouldn't hurt like before,
- the fear of being vulnerable and then rejected,
- the fear that if I show who I really am, it won't be enough or it will be unwanted.
In therapy I gradually set those fears aside. Piece by piece. And the more I opened up, the more I was able to see who was standing beside me. And that he is more than I could ever have dreamed.
My partner is not only my lover, he is certainly also my best friend. He is my adviser and business partner. We are therapists and teachers to each other. We complement each other perfectly. We can talk about things that hurt. And after every difficult moment we come away with even more love.
And then there's something that is hugely precious to me — humour and laughter. It's the spice of our relationship and I love it. I craved it so much. The last time I experienced this was maybe in elementary school with my best friend. Now I have it every day — laughter, perspective and lightness. But it's not just about laughter. It's also about his constant good will to be kind to each other. Come rain or shine. And that is a gift I couldn't even have imagined.
I didn't believe this was possible. And yet I'm living it.
Today I know that a relationship isn't about waiting for the right person. It's about what I bring into the relationship myself. Everything I give comes back to me. I also learned that communication is key. We constantly check in with each other about what's happening inside us. When something bothers us, we talk about it while it's still fresh — we don't bottle it up. I've found that by doing this we don't create room for assumptions or imagined stories about hurt and grievances. This way we dissolve any bitterness immediately, on the spot, without delay.
But I know it wouldn't have come if I hadn't first taken the journey to myself. My old wounds kept me stuck with men who rejected me for years. Only when I let that go could someone come into my life who truly sees and loves me.
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If you long for a relationship where you'll truly feel good, I'll happily support you. I will help you put down old pains and let love in.
BeTrue therapy is held online, so we can connect from anywhere.
I truly live by the BeTrue method — it's part of my everyday life. I practise therapy every day, both for others and for myself. Again and again I see how it changes lives — mine and the lives of my clients.
I've already guided nearly 100 people, and each time I'm fascinated by how miraculously their lives begin to change when they let go of old pain — just like it did for me.
Send me a message. I'm looking forward to hearing from you :-)