How to access your core beliefs

Have you ever wondered why you keep reacting the same way...

even though part of you knows you don't want to?

Why you say "yes" when you really want to say "no."

Why you keep feeling like you're not enough.

Or why the same situations seem to repeat throughout your life.

For years, I thought I simply needed to think differently.

To become more positive.

To replace limiting beliefs with empowering ones.

But no matter how hard I tried...

the same reactions kept coming back.

Maybe you've experienced something similar.

Then I discovered something that completely changed the way I looked at it.

I realised I couldn't think my way to my core beliefs.

I had to feel my way to them.

That surprised me.

Like many people, I had spent years trying not to feel uncomfortable emotions.

Whenever something unpleasant came up, my first instinct was to get away from it.

I distracted myself.

I kept busy.

I tried to think positively.

I looked for solutions.

Maybe you know that feeling too.

Looking back, it makes perfect sense.

Many of us grew up learning that some feelings weren't welcome.

We heard things like:

"Don't cry."

"Calm down."

"You're overreacting."

Or we simply didn't have someone who could stay with us while we were feeling something difficult.

So we learned to move away from our feelings instead of towards them.

One day I tried something different.

I sat down.

Closed my eyes.

And simply paid attention to my breath.

Not because breathing itself is magical.

But because it helped me slow down enough to notice what was happening inside me.

Whenever a feeling, an emotion, or even a physical sensation appeared, I stopped trying to change it.

Instead, I became curious.

I stayed with it.

I gave it space.

At first, that felt completely unnatural.

Every part of me wanted to get away.

But something surprising happened.

The more I stayed with what I was feeling, the more I began to discover things I had never been able to see before.

My core beliefs weren't hiding in my thoughts.

They were hiding underneath the feelings I had spent years trying not to feel.

That changed everything.

Because I realised I didn't need to force myself to think differently.

I needed to become willing to stay with my experience long enough for it to reveal what was underneath.

This is still how I work with myself today.

Whenever something in life triggers me, I no longer ask,

"How do I make this feeling go away?"

Instead, I become curious.

"What is the worst part about it for me?"

And that question keeps leading me back to what's really happening inside me.

Sometimes what I discover is a belief that has quietly shaped my life for years.

Sometimes it's simply a feeling that never had the chance to be fully experienced.

Either way, every time I stop running away from myself, I become a little freer.

This is also how I work with my clients.

Not by giving them answers.

But by creating a safe space where they can discover their own.

Because in my experience, the deepest and most lasting change doesn't happen when someone tells us what we believe.

It happens when, through our own experience, we allow ourselves to discover what has been within us all along.

What did this bring up for you? ❤️

And if you're curious to explore your own core beliefs with someone walking alongside you, I'd be happy to show you how the BeTrue approach can help. Feel free to get in touch.