True Feeling of Safety Comes from Within

We often believe safety comes from other people — a partner, a friend, a family member. But the truth is, the feeling of safety is born inside us.

Real safety begins when we allow ourselves to fully feel whatever is present — even the uncomfortable emotions — without running away. That means *not* numbing ourselves with food, sex, work, or constant company. It means staying present with our emotions instead of abandoning ourselves.

 Why this is so hard:

From childhood, many of us were not supported in feeling and processing unpleasant emotions. Our parents or caregivers may have dismissed, punished, or ignored our feelings. As a result, we learned to suppress them and disconnect from ourselves. That's how we abandon the "inner child" within us.

 Being yourself means:

* Feeling your emotions, sensations, and needs.

* Honoring what you feel without judgment ("I shouldn't feel this…" is self-abandonment).

* Expressing your needs — physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual.

When we speak our truth, we reclaim our power. When we hide it, we feel unsafe, anxious, and even experience panic attacks. 

A simple truth:

Safety doesn't come from someone else "giving" it to you. Even if someone holds you, it is *still you* who is feeling safe — because your heart is open. And when your heart is open, you can feel *both* discomfort *and* love. 

Practical steps to start:

1. Stay present with what you feel — pleasant or unpleasant.

2. Identify your needs based on your feelings.

3. Express them honestly — even if it's uncomfortable.

4. Align your inner and outer expression — let your body and words match your truth.

When you are authentic, you feel powerful.

When you feel powerful, you feel also safe.

Do you wish to learn how to stay present with yourself and feel unpleasant emotions and feelings? Contact me and I can be the guide on your journey.