What helps me feel safe?

Out of everything I've tried throughout my life, one thing has consistently made the biggest difference.

My sense of safety begins when I can stay with myself and allow myself to feel whatever I'm feeling in that moment.

It doesn't matter what the situation is or what emotion arises. When I allow it to be there, stay present with it, and truly experience it, something inside me changes. Gradually, my capacity to hold life exactly as it is expands. And as a natural by-product, a sense of safety begins to emerge.

For many years, I did the exact opposite.

I resisted my feelings. I searched for mental solutions. I kept trying to figure out how to make the uncomfortable feeling disappear and never come back. I was living in fear of fear itself.

In reality, I was running away from myself. From what I was feeling.

But it's impossible to run away from your own experience.

It's like a cat running away from the little bell tied to its own tail. It can run as fast as it wants, but the bell will always be running with it.

Paradoxically, it was only when I stopped running and allowed myself to stay with my experience that I began to find peace. Not because the uncomfortable feelings disappeared, but because I no longer had to be afraid of them.

That is what true safety means to me today.

This understanding is at the heart of the Be True technique. It's not about getting rid of difficult emotions. It's about learning to stay present with them until your nervous system no longer experiences them as something it has to escape from.

This is the same process I guide my clients through using the Be True technique. We don't learn how to get rid of uncomfortable feelings. We learn how to stay with them. How to experience them without having to run away.

Because when we learn to stay with what we feel, we often discover that we no longer have to run away from ourselves.

When an uncomfortable feeling arises, do you know how to stay with it without running away? I

If you'd like to learn, contact me. I'd be honoured to guide you through the Be True technique.